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11/21/2008

Friday Haiku - Advice

Haiku Friday



It hurts me sometimes
When I see the laughter die
in somebody's heart.

I want to comfort
to ease their cries and their pain
to make them better.

Perhaps if I wrote
the perfect piece of advice
They'd find a way out.

It never happens
I can never ease their pains
words are not enough.

I will always try
to find the piece of advice
that helps light the way.


These are getting to be tough times - and this is a time of year when things are tough anyway. I see it out here - SADD, bi-polar, just plain old ordinary depressed. I see it every day - I guess that's an expression of the Law Of Unintended Consequences. I am out here every day. Posting. Reading. Close to 80 blogs a day. All but 5 are women bloggers. I see people fall into and out of depressive states like kids bouncing on a trampoline. I had no idea this kind of stuff went on. I had no idea what it REALLY means to be a woman in this day and age.

You people, you women, have WAY more strength and courage than I do.

God love you. I know I do.

Peace.

32 comments:

MommyTime said...

You are a really wonderful person with an excellent soul. Your steady stream of comments means more than you can ever know. Thank you for this post, and for all the time you spend reading, thinking, jumping into conversations, simply reassuring the community that you are there and not going anywhere. I know there are a lot of people struggling right now (and I thank heavens I'm not one of them), and I know your support means mountains to them too. Have a lovely weekend!

Joyce-Anne said...

Here, I thought I was the only one feeling melancholy - not all the time, but often enough... Sometimes, it's incredibly overwhelming being responsible for everyone and never, ever being able to take a break. I'm not complaining - I adore being a wife and mother. But in this day and age, we have to be aware of who our children are with and what they are doing at all times. Then, it's compounded with working outside the home (as well as inside), some of us help take care of aging parents, and then the economy goes to he**. I don't even think I've touched on everything. It's no wonder we've got problems.

You are a kind and generous person, I know your kind words help. They've helped me. Thank you.

Loraine said...

Thanks for noticing. :)

Huckdoll said...

Your comments have lit my way more times than I can count on one hand. You are an AMAZING man and quite often your words stay with me all day and even stand out in my mind throughout this self-imposed hiatus. No really...I am so thankful for you and those comments you leave on a daily basis.

Myst_72 said...

You're just awesome Lou,

G
xx

Nicole said...

Your words are always a great help.
Just you being there is!
Hugs!

Jientje said...

I noticed your comments on other people's blogs before I read your blog,and that made you stand out. You always seem to have the right words, that little tap on the shoulder, with a little bit of humour sometimes, but always from the heart. That's what makes you such a good friend, Lou.
Have fun today!
I'm jealous ;-)

Kelley said...

And I love you right on back.

Shadow said...

what moving words today! way i see it, down's are necessary for you to enjoy and appreciate the up's... you are a shining light on my daily reads. always have been. love you lots right back!

Rebecca said...

All that extra estrogen you're exposed to... God love you, Lou. :)

witchypoo said...

You're right (and I bet you never get tired of hearing that). I was never depressed until menopause mucked with my hormones. Of course, I was not overweight either til then. What I have to fight to do during depression is to stay in touch. I tend to turn turtle and withdraw. I'm reposting not to withdraw, but because I have a lot of new visitors lately, and I want them to see some of my better content.

Nan said...

I know that men get depressed too, but I think most of them have a hard time expressing it. Women are traditionally expected to feel sad or irate at times, so it's more "Okay" for us to rant and cry at our lives. We are expected to be able to do it all. Some of us manage kinda okay. Maybe men have it easier in some ways?

I also think that the global community of the internet is a helpful, healing and wonderful forum for all of us. Suppourt is so good.

Christy said...

Reading all these thoughts out there--I, too, find it humbling and inspiring (and frightening).

Nice thoughts!

Amanda said...

This is my first time visiting your blog via Haiku Friday and this really hit home for me. I suffer from SADD and its beginning to really hit me hard. It is difficult to be a woman in this day and age, but I do want to say that your blog really encouraged me today! So thank you and I'll be back more often to read!

Patsy said...

You do make everyone feel better no matter what there state of mind before your words.

Be careful not to let the melancholly of others swallow you up. You are a breath of fresh air I don't want to lose.

And none of what I just typed really says what I mean. I hope you can read between the words and find how I feel.

Ashlie- Mommycosm said...

Ohhhh. Just ohhh.
You are such a kind soul. I'm sure your words are helping more than you know.

moneythoughts said...

80 blogs? Where do you find the time? You write some great stuff and I am happy to know you have helped so many people.

Have a nice weekend Lou.

Bama Cheryl said...

You are amazingly insightful and sensitive. Thanks for seeing AND understanding others' thoughts and feelings.

Cathy said...

That was very touching. Just letting people know that you emphasize is very, very helpful.

Cathy said...

That was very touching. Just letting people know that you emphasize is very, very helpful.

hockeychic said...

What nice thoughts. You send out so much good energy to the universe. Seeing that expression of kindness gives me hope for the world. Sorry if that sounds cheesey, this was a nice way to start the day.

Momisodes said...

This time of year seems to be really tough. But your incredibly kind, encouraging and dedicated comments and emails are more than what close friends and family sometimes offer. You have a good heart. A damn good heart. And I know that I am not alone in being incredibly grateful for your friendship.

Tara R. said...

Mwah! you are a darlin'!

maggie's mind said...

You are just such a good and kind and sweet man. One of the good guys. One of the best of the good guys even.

Secret Agent Mama said...

Your words FOREVER lift me up. They are words I wish my father would have said to me. So, thank you Lou! You mean more to me than I can say.

Hyphen Mama said...

Oh, you are so right. My thoughts mirror what Joyce-Anne wrote.

Zoeyjane said...

Everyone's said something that I could here, so really, I'll leave it as this: You've made me cry because of things you've said. And only in a good way. And that? Extremely hard to come by. You are extraordinary.

Christy said...

You know, Lou, I had this post in the back of my mind all day--more women ARE depressed than men.

That's a stat.

But sometimes, men look at women venting and changing daily as dysfunction--it may not be that, for women.

Just more willing to share, to spill, more depth, less fear of exposure.....

I know for myself, sometimes people will comment as to how miserable I sounded and I am truly perplexed!

LOL

I was feeling so much better, just having written it!

OHmommy said...

I don't think you realize how special you are, Lou.

I hope you plan on attending BlogHer in Chicago next year so I can run and give you a great big bear hug and perhaps a smooch on the cheek too!

LceeL said...

There is no way for me to respond to these comments individually. I can only say thank you. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

Velvet Verbosity said...

It's always bothered me that women get pegged as more fragile and depressed etc. But I think we are wired to really connect with others and you hit the nail on the head with the "this day and age". There's so little opportunity for deep connections, and the people we care about have so many other distractions that we can feel alone. Women need close community. That's part of why we blog!

Lady Language said...

You are a sweet Man and perhaps know more about Woman than any before you :-)