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2/26/2008

Just shoot me

It seems to be a function of age that you get to the point where you can't take care of yourself. Or, at least, the perception of those whom you've given life is that you've become a raving idiot and you're no longer self-sufficient. And at the very minimum, you've become a burden and a source of irritation. And discussion. And long, rambling, angry telephone calls. Thus the fate of my Mother-in-law. Thus the reason MY mom lives with us. So that she lives as she wishes with as much dignity as possible. But anyway - if I ever get to the point where I'm viewed like that, where I'm actually like that - just. shoot. me.

11 comments:

Sandy C. said...

Eeek, so sorry to hear. It's so hard when loved ones get older.

Julie said...

My sister and I have a pact to do something drastic if either of us starts to act too much like our aunts...

Sorry you are having parent struggles. It's a very tough thing.

Nicole said...

Uh, sorry :(

Respect is something most people these days lack.
Especially towards older people and very especially towards their parents / relatives :(

Elissa - Managing Autism said...

It can be challenging when caring for ageing parents.
xx

GirlBlue said...

Its so hard getting older. I myself dread it but I will do anything for my mother to still be around

LceeL said...

Sandy, Julie, Nicole, Elissa, Girlblue: thanks, all of you. I watch this as an 'outsider' - this is one of those areas where the 9 kids exclude everyone else. It is really frustrating to not be able to help. I just glad I can take care of MY Mom. And that she and Annie get along so well. Although I really have to persuade Annie to stop threatening my mother with arsenic. ;>)

Maddy said...

It's a very difficult phase. My dad has Alzheimers but my mum is alive [and kicking!] I doubt if they would come and live with us though.
Best wishes

thegrandview said...

Well as the old saying goes, Lou, getting old sucks but it does beat the alternative.

amanda said...

my husband says the same thing all of the time. haha :)

Sarcastic Mom (aka Lotus) said...

John was just telling me the other day that he had read an article talking about how many seniors sit in their homes, just staring at the door all day. Waiting. Hoping to see someone they love walk through it. It's really sad. It's great that your mother lives with you.

LceeL said...

Maddy: Yes, it is a tough time. Just let them know you think about them, from time to time.

thegrandview: To a certain extent, yes, that's true. I just don't want to become a pain in the butt.

amanda: I like him already.

Lotus: I would never want that for my Mom. And I certainly don't want that for me. I just don't want to be a burden and source of irritation, like other families I've seen.