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4/29/2010

Some things are just not fair

I sat for over an hour trying to put together a response to the 100 Word Challenge, as I usually do on Thursdays. But my mind is occupied with care and concern for a friend.

If I were to tell you she'd had her heart broken, you'd say, "That's too bad" and "Oh, I'm so sorry for her" and you would mean those things - but you wouldn't understand and your responses would be rather perfunctory.

She is a single mom. How she got to be a single mom isn't as important as knowing she had stabilized her life and that of her sons, and she had grown to be independent and capable and thoroughly self sufficient. And loved by a whole bunch of people. A woman of spirit to match her flaming red hair, a woman of emotions that flow deep and strong.

If I told you that at BlogHer last summer, as things were wrapping up and people were leaving, that she hid in her room and cried because she couldn't BEAR to say goodbye to the people she knew and loved, would you begin to understand the depth of feelings that live in this woman?

A man had found his way into her life, recently. She let him in - let down her guard. She was all agog over the feelings in her, and she thought she'd found the man to be stepdad to her boys. In a series of posts, recently, she recounted their communications back and forth, and she let the world know how she had fallen in love. And in a sudden and shattering turn of events, he has told her they can't be together. She is CRUSHED. And every one of us who knows what love is and how it feels can feel the knife wounds in her heart right now.

That's what is on my mind. That's why I can't write my 100 Words today.

My friend is hurting. And so am I.

Truthfully, ndinombethe. As I go, I am wearing you.

16 comments:

Talina said...

I know those feelings well and know that nothing can be said or done to help. Only time will heal.

~L said...

you are a friend indeed. she is blessed to have your thoughts. peace be with you.
L

Jientje said...

You are such a dear friend.

Nan Sheppard said...

Oh, dear. I am so sorry...

NicoleB said...

Hugs, to both of you!
:(

Grandmother said...

You're a good friend to give the only thing we can give to each other at such a time- presence, support and love. Blessings on you both.

Melisa with one S said...

Well written, Lou. As you know, my brain is all a mess about her, too. :(

Tara R. said...

This is so eloquent... I hurt for her too.

Myst_72 said...

So sorry to read this Lou.

Blessings to you both,

G
xx

Mrs F with 4 said...

Your heart is big, and so tender.

Cat said...

Lou,

Having been in the warmth of your compassion, I feel for her and for you my friend.

Sending good thoughts your way.

Cat

Holly at Tropic of Mom said...

You are such a good friend, Lou, and a tender, caring heart. Blessings to you and your friend....

Coal Miner's Granddaughter said...

What touches me about this post is that your friendship and emotions for her shine through.

Be that friend that we can't be so many internet connections away. Thanks, Lou!

Mags said...

I do not know her but have seen via you and Melisa what a wonderful person she is...and my heart cries for her...you are a good friend.

PattiKen said...

How sad it is for your friend to have given her heart, which is clearly a warm and loving one, to someone and have him say, "no thanks." Heartbreaking. I'm glad you are her friend.

Hyphen Mama said...

Oh, don't we all know that crushing weight of sorrow and disbelief... not accepting what is.

I am so sorry for your friend, and she is one blessed woman to have YOU as her friend.